I’m an experienced online dater, but I still have some fears when meeting a woman. Those fears are based on past experiences. For example, I once met this gorgeous woman on PassionSearch.com. She was everything I had looked for in a fuck buddy…except she had HORRIBLE breath. I’m talking vomit breath that made me gag kissing her. It was a total turnoff. Ever since this experience, I’ve had a minor fear that the women I meet will have bad breath. Yeah, it’s silly fear to have but it’s a fear nonetheless.
Now put yourself in the shoes of a 40-something woman that’s likely been married, divorced, married again, divorced again, cheated on, lied to, and left unsatisfied in the bedroom time and time again. Before I meet older women, I’m always very understanding of what she’s been through. Some have been through rougher relationships than others. But most Cougars that I have met have been through far more than I. Her past experiences will cause her to be cautious with you before jumping into any sort of relationship. It’s your job to prove to her that you aren’t her…
The biggest fear most Cougars have is to find someone just like the ex. Chances are she was married to a complete douchebag that never pleased her in the bedroom or did nice things for her. He was probably very immature and a total lush. Prove to her early on that you’re mature and willing to work hard to please her. Don’t be a sappy pushover. Those types of guys are unattractive. Be stern and confident, but make sure she doesn’t categorize you as her ex-hubby.
Every Cougar has a story to share about the guys she dated when she was 20. Most Cougars fancy younger men simply because they want to find that rare 20-something guy that’s not like the ones she dated back in the day. Cougars know that most 20-somethings are immature. So they’re always cautious at first to get comfortable with a guy. She dated some total douchebags back in the day, so she’s fearful (at first) that’s what she will find.
Past Sex Life
The truth is most guys suck in bed. Doesn’t matter what age. This is especially true for the younger guys. Before she opens up (her vagina) to you, she’ll test you out to see if you’re a worthy partner. She might grill you on sexual questions just to see how experienced you really are. You better have a good answer to these questions. She’s looking for a powerful sex life and if you can’t give it to her, she’ll find someone that can.